Is the load of managing your home causing tension in your relationship?
Introducing
The Share The Load Program
A 30-day reset to help you and your partner uncover the invisible habits, expectations and role-modelling that shape how things get done at home - and replace them with simple systems and better communication so the load finally feels shared.
Your home runs more smoothly. Your relationship feels more connected. And everyone is playing for the same team.
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Feeling stretched thin and unappreciated?
You’re not alone.
You’re trying to hold everything together, work, kids, meals, schedules, while keeping the peace.
But instead of feeling like a team, it sometimes feels like you’re carrying most of it.
You’ve asked for help, but it still circles back to you. And every time you try to talk about it, it ends up in tension or misunderstanding.
You start to wonder if this is just how it is.
It’s not.
Most couples fall into patterns they never consciously chose.
We are shaped by what we saw growing up, the roles our parents modelled, the expectations we absorbed, and the unspoken rules we’ve been following ever since.
When those old scripts stay invisible, it’s impossible to change them.
That’s when you get:
❌ The same conversations (or arguments) looping again and again
❌ One person feeling the pressure while the other thinks they’re doing enough
❌ Resentment, defensiveness and distance creeping in
❌ A sense of exhaustion that makes change feel too hard
And yet, these patterns quietly affect everything, not just who does the school run, but how you feel about each other.
The impact of staying stuck in this pattern runs deeper than the odd fight about who’s doing the dishes.
Research shows that couples who don’t share the load of running a home and family fairly report less intimacy, lower relationship satisfaction and are twice as likely to consider divorce.
More teamwork. Less tension. More connection.
When the load feels fair, everything else shifts.
You laugh again. You reconnect. You stop feeling like co-managers of a household and remember what it’s like to be partners.
You’ll learn how to:
- Finally see the invisible load and share it with clarity
- Replace frustration with understanding and respect
- Build simple systems that make teamwork automatic
- Bring back calm, laughter and connection
- Model real partnership for your kids
Because when home runs on teamwork, there’s more harmony and a lot less stress.
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Introducing
The Share The Load Program:
30 Days to a Calmer, Happier Home
A step-by-step program to help you move from feeling unseen or overwhelmed to feeling supported, respected and understood - and to help your partner move from feeling unsure or criticised to feeling confident, capable and appreciated.
The result?
The load finally feels lighter. The home feels calmer. The relationship feels stronger.
You’ll learn how to:
✅ Spot the hidden expectations and old family patterns that keep you both stuck
✅ Shift from “helping out” to shared ownership
✅ Have calmer, more productive conversations
✅ Set up systems that make responsibility clear
✅ Rebuild connection through shared respect and teamwork
What’s inside The Program
📍 Module 1: See the Load - make the invisible visible.
📍 Module 2: Scripts We Inherited - uncover and rewrite old gender patterns.
📍 Module 3: Letting Go of Resentment - clear what’s built up so you can start fresh.
📍 Module 4: Conversations That Work - talk without conflict.
📍 Module 5: Embedding Shared Responsibility - create real systems that last.
📍 Module 6: Sustain the Change - keep teamwork alive and model equality for your kids.
🎁 Bonus 1 : The Ultimate Life Planner (Notion Edition) - get the load out of your head and into a shared system.
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Why this works (when other advice doesn't)
Most advice tells women to delegate more or lower their standards. And it tells men to help more.
Share the Load takes a different approach:
- It helps both of you understand why this happens.
- It gives you language and tools that don’t end in conflict.
- It replaces guilt and blame with clarity and partnership.
- It focuses on small, practical shifts that create real, lasting change.
- It gives you the practical organisation tools to make the load visible and share it so it becomes embedded in your day-to-day routines.
Kind Words
"I joined The Intentional Home program after following Lisa through her previous business and always appreciating her interesting newsletters and practical advice. Like many, I felt stuck in the never-ending cycle of trying to stay on top of my home, and I knew that something deeper needed to shift if I truly wanted lasting change.
While I’m still on the journey, this program has already helped me take meaningful steps forward. It’s not about perfection, it’s about consistent, manageable wins and reframing how we think about our homes and ourselves. Lisa offers so much more than just decluttering tips. The content is rich, reflective, and supportive, helping you uncover what truly matters to you in your home, and how to maintain that vision long-term.
The bonus guides are super helpful for tackling specific areas, and Lisa’s presence in the Facebook group and over email makes you feel genuinely supported. I know I’ll keep coming back to the tools, mindset shifts, and encouragement this program provides as I continue creating a home that feels good to live in."
Emma
"I came into the course wanting to stop yelling all the time. I was so overstimulated and snappy and constantly on edge. I felt like my house was taking over me and I just couldn’t get on top of things.
But I get it now, it’s because I’m trying to do too much.
Lisa helped me realise I needed more support from my family. Now I have the tools to make this happen and I just need to take small steps forward each day, it feels good knowing what I’m working towards and having a plan to get me there."
Karen
"I’ve always struggled with letting go of things. I’d walk into a room and feel instantly overwhelmed, like where the hell do I even start? My brain just shuts down.
The course helped me realise that the clutter wasn’t just in my cupboards, it was in my head.
Now, I finally have a way to break it down that doesn’t make me feel like a failure every time I try. It’s not easy and it’s going to take time to work through my whole house, but with the family onboard, I know we can get there."
Steph
What’s the cost of carrying the load alone?
Most people don’t need reminding how heavy it can feel when you’re holding too much. You just keep going because stopping feels harder.
You tell yourself it’s easier to do it yourself than to have another conversation about it. You lower your expectations, take on a bit more, and promise you’ll deal with it later. But later never really comes.
The truth is, trying to hold everything together comes at a cost.
It costs your energy, because you’re always “on” and can’t switch off.
It costs your peace of mind, because your brain never gets to rest.
It costs your relationship, because resentment starts to build where connection used to be.
It costs your health, because the stress shows up in your sleep, your patience, and your well-being.
And over time, it even costs your family, because your kids grow up watching this imbalance and start believing it’s normal.
This is how so many couples drift apart, not because they stop caring for each other, but because they never learned how to reset the pattern.
You don’t need to try harder, do more, or just “let things go.”
You need a new way of sharing the load, one that helps both of you step up, communicate better, and rebuild your home life around teamwork, not tension.
That’s exactly what The Share the Load Program: 30 Days to a Happier Home is designed to do.
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Meet your coach
Hi, I’m Lisa.
For years, I worked inside family homes helping people declutter and get organised. I met families from every kind of background, yet the same tension kept appearing again and again. One partner would feel like they were carrying more of the load, while the other genuinely believed they were doing their fair share.
It was never about laziness, love, or even intention. What I came to understand was that most of us are simply following invisible habits, the unspoken rules and expectations we absorbed growing up. We don’t consciously choose them; they just quietly shape how we show up at home.
I became deeply curious about why this happens. I started exploring the research on relationships, psychology, communication and behaviour, and discovered that the imbalance so many couples experience isn’t usually personal. It’s patterned. It’s the result of what we’ve seen modelled and normalised throughout our lives.
When I reflected on my own upbringing, I realised how much it had shaped my view of partnership. I spent much of my later childhood living with my dad, which wasn’t the typical “mum does it all” household. He managed everything - meals, school runs, the lot - and he taught us kids to take responsibility, too. Those early years gave me a different perspective on what teamwork at home can look like and how powerful it is when everyone plays their part.
Over the years, I’ve seen what happens when these old patterns go unchallenged. Tension builds, connection fades, and resentment quietly replaces respect - not because people stop loving each other, but because they were never shown how to change the pattern.
That’s why I created Share the Load in 30 Days - a practical, research-informed, heart-led program designed to help couples bring fairness, calm and genuine partnership back into their homes. Because when we learn to share responsibility and communicate differently, everything changes. Homes feel lighter, relationships feel stronger, and our kids grow up seeing what real teamwork looks like.
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It’s time to create a happier home - together.
Join the waitlist to be first to know when doors open and get early-bird access to the first intake of the Share the Load Program.
You’ll learn how to lighten the load, strengthen your relationship, and create a calmer, fairer home - without doing it all yourself.
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Ready to Reset the Balance?
It’s time to stop carrying it all and start creating a home built on teamwork, fairness and shared respect.